Saturday, January 3, 2009

Every expecting husbands worst nightmare...

I was just browsing the blogosphere for blogs about fathers who had become such recently and hoped to gleen some pointers. I searched for "blog becoming a dad", and there were various returns but one stuck out... "Becoming a Dad and a widdower all at once". So I followed the link.
 The blog this link refered to is a tear jerker, and as I say - every husbands worst nightmare.  It's certainly worth a read. I take my hat off to this guy - so many guys can't be a father to their child when there is a mother around to share the load - this guy has his priorities right - despite the tragedy of their situation he has continued through probably the roughest days any of us can imagine. 

Still I got thinking before about how life must change when fatherhood approaches - its a scarey thought how the responsibility of parenthood is thrust upon us. We've been trying for about three and a half years to get pregnant, and now that we're here, I don't think that we'll ever feel ready for children, so perhaps it's just as well these things get thrust upon us. I've just realised how that sounds - when I say "thrust upon us", I mean that once you start this journey it cannot be paused so you can catch your breath, or check the user manual. I can't wait to hold our child in my arms, and speak it's name. But as I say there is lots of potential to screw things up along the way. 

Still it's probably as easy as falling off a log - cause usually you have no choice about how you land once you start falling, but very few people don't live to tell the story afterwards :-)

That's enough musing for one night...
Abe

5 comments:

Glen and Andrea said...

Nice log analogy Abe! Did you make that one up?

Abe said...

Yeah - it just came to me :-)

Searching for Serenity said...

I don't have the guts to read that guys blog, but I can imagine it is tragic.

As for being thurst into parenthood, I can completely relate. Our conception happened when we least expected it to. And although we are thrilled, moments randomly pass by me and I think "What have we gotten ourselves into?"

With experience comes wisdom. No manuals necessary. You'll find your way.

Searching for Serenity said...

Thank you for the note and for explaining the differences between hypoglycemia and gestational diabetes. I've been trying to eat more over that past few days and it has helped. I am keeping any eye on it and plan to call the doc if anything changes.

Hope all is well.

Jesse and Mandy Peterson said...

Thank you for the comments on my blogs. I appreciate you taking the time to read them, and even more, taking the time to send some encouraging words and advice my way. I've struggled to maintain the relationships with people who are still going through infertility and find that giving grace is the best answer so far. It's easy to feel slighted if I allow myself to go there, but when I offer grace instead, I feel compassion. As for my grandma, she is now home from the hospital and they are setting up the house to care for her (in the stages before hospice). Knowing my grandma, if she wants to continue fighting, she will, and we will all support her in it. We just want her best interest in mind- exactly what you said as far as quality vs. quantity. I'll keep everyone updated as things progress.

Thanks again. When you get a chance, I'm sure we'd all like an update on how you're all doing: yourself, Sarah, and little "Isaac" on the way...

Still praying and rooting for you guys.